Wade Arnold Blog
A Christian's Guide to Managing Anxious Thoughts
Before we dive into practical techniques, let's acknowledge something important: feeling anxious doesn't mean your faith is weak. Even Jesus's disciples faced anxiety and fear. Remember when they were in the boat during the storm? They panicked while Jesus slept peacefully. His response wasn't to scold them for their anxiety but to demonstrate His power over their fears: "Peace, be still!" (Mark 4:39).
A Christian's Guide to Understanding Anxiety
Think of anxiety like a storm system moving through your life. Just as a storm affects everything in its path, anxiety touches every part of who we are – our minds, bodies, relationships, and spiritual lives.
Finding Peace in the Storm: Christian Approaches To Overcome Anxiety
Have you ever felt your heart racing, palms sweating, and thoughts spiraling out of control? If so, you're not alone. Anxiety is a common struggle for many of us, including those in Christian marriages. But here's the good news: God hasn't left us to face these challenges alone. He's given us powerful tools to find peace and calm in the midst of life's storms.
Risks of Marital Separaton
Marital separation is one of the most challenging decisions a couple can face. While some view it as a step toward reconciliation, others see it as the beginning of the end. Regardless of intent, separation often carries significant risks that can impact both individuals and their families deeply. It’s important to consider these potential hazards when navigating this difficult time.
Theology & Psychology In Christian Counseling and Coaching
Many Christians approach psychology with skepticism, often feeling like it’s at odds with their faith. They worry that worldly philosophies might taint their spiritual walk or that psychological principles will somehow replace God’s truth. But what if psychology and theology could work together to help us live more whole and fruitful lives? After all, if all truth is God’s truth, shouldn’t we seek to understand His creation, including the human mind and emotions?
Biblical Grounds For Divorce
Divorce is one of the toughest, most heartbreaking issues to navigate, especially as Christians who hold marriage as a sacred covenant before God. It’s a relationship designed to reflect Christ’s love for the church—one of deep commitment, sacrifice, and enduring love. But sadly, in our broken world, marriages sometimes fall apart, and certain situations make it impossible to hold that bond together. The Bible, while holding marriage in high regard, also provides clear guidance when divorce might be justified.
Forgiveness: A Path To Healing
Forgiveness is one of the most powerful yet challenging acts we can engage in, especially when deep wounds are involved. Everett Worthington, a leading psychologist and expert in the field of forgiveness, has developed a practical and research-based model to help guide people through the often difficult process of forgiving. Worthington's REACH model has been widely used in counseling and personal growth, offering a structured way to process forgiveness.
Biblical Divorce
The Bible, while holding marriage in high regard, also provides clear guidance when divorce might be justified. In particular, Scripture addresses three heartbreaking situations: adultery, abandonment, and abuse. In these cases, God offers a way forward for those who are hurting, providing a path to peace, safety, and healing.
6 Reasons Wives Should Initiate Sex
When it comes to marriage, intimacy plays a significant role in strengthening the bond between husbands and wives. But let’s be real—sometimes the dynamic of who initiates can get a little routine. What if we flip the script? What if wives took the lead more often when it comes to intimacy? This shift can do wonders for your marriage in ways that go far beyond the bedroom. Let's explore some of the benefits of wives initiating sex with their husbands and how it can breathe fresh life into your relationship.
Can Christians Have Oral Sex?
The question of whether the Bible speaks specifically about oral sex is one that comes up frequently, especially as couples seek to understand how to live holy lives within the context of marriage. While the Bible doesn’t directly mention oral sex, there are principles throughout Scripture that can guide Christians in making decisions about sexual intimacy in their marriage.
Delayed Orgasm in Men
As men get older, it’s not unusual to notice changes in how their bodies respond during intimate moments. One such change is taking longer to climax. This can be confusing or even worrying at times, but it’s a completely normal part of aging for many men. Understanding why this happens can help ease those concerns and even open the door to a deeper connection in relationships.
Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation (PE) is something many couples deal with, and while it can be frustrating, it's definitely something you can work on together. If you or your partner is struggling with it, it might bring up feelings of anxiety or even strain the relationship, but the good news is, there are real solutions. By understanding what’s behind it and trying a few practical steps, you can improve your intimacy and strengthen your connection as a couple.
Counseling vs. Coaching: Which Do I Need?
If you’re looking to strengthen your marriage, you might be wondering whether coaching or counseling is the right choice. It’s a common question—and an important one. Both coaching and counseling can be incredibly helpful, but they work in different ways. The key is figuring out which one meets your current needs and helps you and your spouse build the Christ-centered marriage you’re aiming for.
So, what’s the difference between the two? How do you decide which is right for you? Let’s break it down and get to the heart of the matter.
Key Factors in Success Therapy and Coaching
When it comes to improving your marriage, you may wonder what really makes a difference in coaching. There’s no shortage of advice, but what factors truly lead to positive outcomes in coaching? It turns out, there are a few key elements that can make all the difference. And, whether you're struggling with conflict or just want to strengthen your bond, knowing these factors can give you hope and a fresh outlook for your relationship.
The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage
So, why is forgiveness so crucial in a marriage? First, let’s be real—nobody can meet all our expectations. We all make mistakes, sometimes unintentionally, and sometimes when emotions get the best of us. In marriage, it’s not about if your spouse will mess up, but when. And when they do, how will you respond?
Why Christians shouldn’t see Non-Christian Counselors or Coaches
When you’re facing challenges in your marriage, it’s natural to seek help. But as Christians, it’s important to be mindful of where that help comes from. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, and how you approach the issues in your marriage should align with the beliefs and values that you hold dear. That’s why, as a Christian couple, you might want to think twice before going to a non-Christian therapist or coach.
How Our Actions Impact Each Other
Have you ever noticed how your mood can completely change based on how your spouse treats you? Or how a kind word from you can transform their day? That’s not just a coincidence—it’s a concept called reciprocal determinism. It’s a bit of a mouthful, I know, but stick with me; it’s easier (and more important) than it sounds!
Insurance for Therapy? Think Again
We know therapy works. What is less clear is how to pay for it. For those of us with insurance, it seems logical that we would use it for therapy. But that isn’t always the best idea. We’ve put together the top 9 reasons why you shouldn’t use insurance to pay for mental health treatment.
Marriage As Discipleship
Marriage is so much more than a simple union of two individuals; it is a sacred journey that profoundly influences the spiritual growth of Christian husbands and wives. As a cornerstone for discipleship and mutual support, marriage offers an opportunity like no other relationship for faith and marriage to thrive.
Why I Don’t Accept Insurance
Using insurance for counseling or psychotherapy is bad for the client and it is bad for the therapist. Insurance companies are not looking out for the best interests of their policyholders. They are in the business of making money.