Marriage Support for Pastors & Churches
A Trusted Resource for Caring for Struggling Couples
Pastors carry many burdens.
One of the quietest — and most complex — is walking with marriages in distress.
Recurring conflict. Emotional distance. Betrayal. Discernment seasons.
These situations rarely resolve in one or two pastoral conversations. And yet, they often land on your desk.
My role is simple:
I exist to support pastors and strengthen churches by helping couples build biblically faithful, emotionally mature marriages.
I do not replace pastoral care.
I come alongside it.
The Challenge Many Pastors Face
In nearly every church, a small number of marriages require a large amount of time and energy.
You may recognize situations like:
Couples stuck in the same argument for years
Emotional shutdown that feels impossible to penetrate
Betrayal or trust rupture that overwhelms both spouses
Separation conversations that feel urgent and reactive
Marital tension spilling into parenting and church involvement
These are not merely communication problems.
They often involve entrenched relational patterns that require structured, focused intervention.
Most pastors simply do not have the time to do that level of work consistently — nor should they be expected to.
Common Referral Situations
Referral may make sense when:
A couple has repeated conflict cycles that are not resolving
Emotional safety has deteriorated
Infidelity or betrayal has occurred
One or both spouses feel hopeless or stuck
Discernment is needed regarding the future of the marriage
In many cases, structured intervention early prevents deeper fracture later.
A Shared Vision
Healthy marriages strengthen families.
Healthy families strengthen churches.
When couples learn to handle conflict biblically, regulate their emotions, and honor their covenant, the ripple effect reaches far beyond their home.
My calling is to serve the local church by helping marriages flourish.
If it would be helpful to connect briefly and discuss how marriage struggles are showing up in your congregation, I would welcome that conversation.
Where I Fit
I provide structured marriage mentoring for Christian couples who:
Want to remain faithful to their covenant
Are open to biblical guidance
Are willing to engage in intentional, focused work
My approach integrates:
Biblical theology of covenant and discipleship
Conflict pattern identification and interruption
Emotional regulation skills
Betrayal recovery pathways
Discernment support when couples are considering separation
This is not open-ended therapy.
It is structured, outcome-oriented mentoring designed to strengthen marriages and support pastoral care.
What I Do Not Do
Clarity builds trust, so let me be explicit.
I do not undermine church leadership.
I do not encourage separation or divorce without serious biblical cause.
I do not position myself as a replacement for pastoral authority.
I do not drift theologically.
When appropriate and with client permission, I am happy to maintain communication with referring pastors so we remain aligned in care.
My goal is to strengthen the marriage — and by extension, strengthen the church.
How the Referral Process Works
The process is straightforward:
You refer the couple directly to me.
I conduct an initial assessment session to determine fit and commitment level.
If we proceed, we establish a structured plan with clear goals.
With written permission, I can provide general progress updates to you.
Everything is handled with confidentiality, clarity, and respect for your shepherding role.